tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post3941677901185279467..comments2024-03-01T03:25:03.784-05:00Comments on My MisAdventures in Dating: Dating story #48, Disaster in DenverLindseyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04523804283571858440noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-15388144773432283122011-05-04T16:10:32.109-04:002011-05-04T16:10:32.109-04:00Listen, I'd LOVE to think he "lost his ph...Listen, I'd LOVE to think he "lost his phone." But in this day and age, that's something that usually puts you out for about a day, right? Then, you get a new one. Get all your contact info back. And, with that the ability to reach out and touch [ie text] someone about what happened. <br />Maybe some day, he'll man up, apologize, and we can take it from there...Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04523804283571858440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-3221464479616789862011-04-29T10:18:04.399-04:002011-04-29T10:18:04.399-04:00I didn't read all 28 comments here, but I thin...I didn't read all 28 comments here, but I think he lost his phone. Really.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-14305979944591958672011-04-26T15:15:08.399-04:002011-04-26T15:15:08.399-04:00here's the thing. a) anonymous non-cat lady: t...here's the thing. a) anonymous non-cat lady: that was a long-ass "comment". maybe you should start writing a blog. b) for colorado (so already over flaky people), my view on life: don't let your mouth - or your texts - write a check your butt can't cash. boom. done. moving on.dbotshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14381440599394447759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-57491805047422761382011-04-26T00:46:58.461-04:002011-04-26T00:46:58.461-04:00Wow, these comments are the best source of informa...Wow, these comments are the best source of information, advice and entertainment I could ever ask for.<br />Lily- thank you! You made me smile today. ;)<br />Anonymous- holy poop, what a story! Life's a bitch, aint it? Good thing we're strong women and just like the epic song, we will survive...Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04523804283571858440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-32502809056015448942011-04-25T19:33:03.579-04:002011-04-25T19:33:03.579-04:00I am not a cowardly cat lady. I apologize for offe...I am not a cowardly cat lady. I apologize for offending a few of your readers. I think you were tough enough to read it. Let me start again by saying, I enjoy your blog, for it's honesty and your great sense of humor. And, often harsh posts about the animals in NYC's dating jungle. I have to stand behind what I said in my previous post. Maybe I should have sugar coated it by saying you deserve better before saying anything else, or telling you you're HOT, both are true. <br /><br />Now to discuss anthropology/status a bit. I am a single, professional (sales), early 40ish (looks 30ish) woman living and working in California. I bought my first home at the age of 28 and I'm scheduled to pay it off in 7 years. I have a 19 year old son, employed and a sophomore in college. Ok, now on to try to validate whether my experience and or qualifications in the man/dating area deam me worthy to comment. ok...here go. <br />My first marriage was at age 20, which lasted 10.5 years, total relationship length, 14.75 years. After which, I was seperated/divorced and basically unattached for 4 years. I was a wild girl loose on the west coast and having a ton of fun. Which is how I met husband number 2, which was a whirlwind romance, ending after 4.5 years of marraige, total relationship time 6 years . It was so perfect when it was good. Until we had a major blow up because I would not take a large HELOC (home equity line of credit) out on MY home so he could buy toys. So, I'm now at about 2 years single... again. Back in the dating game. Still having fun, but a more controlled fun this time : ) This time around in the dating arena, I am spending about 5-6 nights out per month. As opposed to my hike through that jungle in my early 30s, where I was spending 12-16 nights out per month. Also my interests in where I want to spend these nights out has changed as well. I still enjoy lounging in the bar or club having cocktails, but this happens less frequently. But this time around, I find myself at events (art, music, fundraisers, food) with like minded people, industry networking parties and private parties with close friends and family. (I had the first wedding for one of my close friends daughters wedding on Saturday. Wow, my friend in the father of the bride role? yikes, that's very aging to admit) So in short... LOL, I think I have been exactly where Lyndsey is. Currently a step or two ahead of her, trying to help her avoid membership into the group, "twice divorced". I am a woman who did not chose well twice in the man area. As I do not know exactly why my picker was so far off, I do know that the exercises I was going through to locate Mr Right proved to be way off. I am a bit more picky now about who I spend intimate time with, (tough with my monster appetite) and do not waste time with the BS. Sorry I did not blow a bit of smoke up your @$$ before I gave it to you honest like. Do not waste time on this one, you DO deserve better. Do not call him, and if he should call you, listen calm and COOL to his reason for the silence and ditching the plan to see you CO. You will KNOW how you feel about him and whether or not to move forward or step away, immedately after he stops talking, like the first sentence/paragraph. Go with your VERY first instinct, the one you get when he stops talking/giving his reason. Unless he has a very good excuse, I know you are smart and tough enough to go find the next. I think when you find the one, you will not be posting about insecurities right away, but much more lovely things. <br /><br />Ha...sorry for the long comment...i wonder if/wat the character limit is??<br /><br />Like I said earlier, I enjoy your blog! Ready to read about your next adventure!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-47006874434366418412011-04-25T17:57:20.916-04:002011-04-25T17:57:20.916-04:00Girl, your story only solidifies my stance that a ...Girl, your story only solidifies my stance that a good man is hard to find and they are SO few and far between! I was totally rooting for CO boy, because he's out here in my neck of the woods (my being in Utah)- but he's just a douche. You are amazeballs and if he doesn't see that, then it's his loss! (And I know it's so lame when people say that, but i'm saying it anyway cause it's true.)<br />Keep livin' the dream girl....oh, and I work in advertising too, so I totally know the pain of new biz pitches! xoBeccahttp://mylittleblacklist.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-34513248480728502302011-04-25T17:24:30.304-04:002011-04-25T17:24:30.304-04:00ps. The next guy I met is my now husband, and you ...ps. The next guy I met is my now husband, and you know what, I didn't take any courses on how to snag him....Lilynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-13234619096255676222011-04-25T17:19:19.653-04:002011-04-25T17:19:19.653-04:00Hey girl, you may be over reading these comments a...Hey girl, you may be over reading these comments already but I wanted to give you a big hug. A few years ago I fell hard for a friend of a friend, had a few amazing 3 day long dates and then didn't hear from him for weeks! I will admit that I got a little text and phone happy, and eventually I heard from him again, but by then I had gotten enough girlfriend advice to resist answering. Still, I get it. And, I think the people who don't get it haven't been there. You'll find a better dude but don't feel bad about the way you handled this situation.Lilynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-7209928561398284612011-04-24T18:52:51.126-04:002011-04-24T18:52:51.126-04:00I'm very sorry, Lindsey, to hear that things d...I'm very sorry, Lindsey, to hear that things didn't turn out the way you had hoped they would. It happens; I know that better than most.<br /><br />The most important thing you wrote in the post, I think, is "I have good intuitions. And I think I'm a pretty good judge of character." That remains true! You have every reason in the world to be confident. <br /><br />He's an ass. Move on. Chin up, ok?Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08748265162087484371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-40413683719191809442011-04-23T23:29:10.304-04:002011-04-23T23:29:10.304-04:00You know what would be a really interesting anthro...You know what would be a really interesting anthropological study? When you ask for advice from readers, require that they give a status line at the beginning of their comment: i.e. "single" "married to THE ONE" "married but not necessarily happily" "in a really good relationship" etc. I don't have any intention of sounding all Mean Girl, but the fact of the matter is that perfect strangers can give you all the advice they want, but how would you ever know if they're individuals whose advice has any merit? The harsh anonymous commenter who says he's not into you and you didn't get the hint. . .might be a cat lady who most likely will never get the great catch. She may be an absolutely lovely person, but not necessarily the person you want to be taking relationship advice from, you know?Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00038969523533493559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-19892271371626820322011-04-23T15:52:20.382-04:002011-04-23T15:52:20.382-04:00oh hunny. annoying. at the end of the day, he'...oh hunny. annoying. at the end of the day, he's just another pretty face who you only just met & who doesn't even live here. don't over-think it. xxxdbotshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14381440599394447759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-89005398217810545652011-04-23T14:18:42.547-04:002011-04-23T14:18:42.547-04:00OMG sista! i'm glad i'm not the only one w...OMG sista! i'm glad i'm not the only one with dating disasters. hang in there.Kayleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09714235648051639169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-70437060764168413322011-04-23T14:09:18.136-04:002011-04-23T14:09:18.136-04:00I have read all these comments and I think everyth...I have read all these comments and I think everything has been covered so let me just say i love your blog and think you are great. Don't let boulder boy bring you down just get back in the game. Don't they always come back anyways? I bet he does.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-40591223173870836102011-04-23T13:15:18.975-04:002011-04-23T13:15:18.975-04:00I am thinking that he had a potential hook up on S...I am thinking that he had a potential hook up on Sat night (that is why he wouldn't take the hint and invite you out). Sounds like his hook-up worked out explaining the silence on Sunday. Regardless, if he can't commit to weekend plans...he can't commit, and you are better off. <br /><br />P.S. I am not a coward...just to lazy to log in. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-62889952900265633522011-04-23T12:54:38.794-04:002011-04-23T12:54:38.794-04:00A-men, Emily!
It's fine. Let 'em comment...A-men, Emily! <br /><br />It's fine. Let 'em comment, anonymously. Their cowardly and yes, often harsh/judgemental drivel is a constant source of amusement for me. :)Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04523804283571858440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-2297643199881642092011-04-23T11:08:17.477-04:002011-04-23T11:08:17.477-04:00My advice is to ban anonymous commenters. They, as...My advice is to ban anonymous commenters. They, as a genre, have always been and always will be meaningless, cowardly and ridiculous.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12303020687887476171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-48682645066043604742011-04-23T04:05:03.333-04:002011-04-23T04:05:03.333-04:00You put him off for the first days you're in t...You put him off for the first days you're in town. Then you invite him to meet your fam? Then you get upset that he doesn't jump when you say? Wack...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-74969880245562269842011-04-23T03:52:18.161-04:002011-04-23T03:52:18.161-04:00I'd POSSIBLY agree with the "upper hand&q...I'd POSSIBLY agree with the "upper hand" comment if you'd not texted and called him on Sunday. Your clue was when he said "We'll be out in Boulder" but did not invite you or even clue you in to what he was doing. I mean really, you two had already had tentative plans and he was blowing you off completely?? And if he was really into you, he'd have made a definate plan with you. <br /><br />So my take on this is, he tipped you off on Saturday that he wasn't into you. BIG CLUE. You ignored it and tried contacting him TWICE on date day, for plans that would have been in place if he were into you. Not good. Upper hand? Noway.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-27157751760747025532011-04-22T22:33:51.321-04:002011-04-22T22:33:51.321-04:00Let it die already! He's a player & you go...Let it die already! He's a player & you got played. You deserve better and you know it. Don't mention him again to mutual friends and if you happen to cross paths, kill him with kindness.<br /><br />~jAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-56144228060535793872011-04-22T22:32:18.895-04:002011-04-22T22:32:18.895-04:00let it go...i think he had a gf.let it go...i think he had a gf.Laurelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00633356906905570645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-32127384674461142312011-04-22T21:48:43.939-04:002011-04-22T21:48:43.939-04:00NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO! Do not send that. Just...NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO! Do not send that. Just let it go. He's a jerk...typical dumb guy move. That doesn't make it suck anymore, but you deserve better and you're just making it too easy for him. You've got to just accept the reason that he's a jerk for doing that to you and get over it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-62042685372115967112011-04-22T20:11:15.643-04:002011-04-22T20:11:15.643-04:00If you send that text we will all slap you via the...If you send that text we will all slap you via the internet. DO NOT DO IT. <br /><br />Have you ever read Think Like a Guy, How to Get a Guy By Thinking Like One? <br /><br />It's a little stupid sometimes but for the most part, it totally is logical!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-15880200449180736372011-04-22T20:04:51.854-04:002011-04-22T20:04:51.854-04:00Do not send the text. I can understand wanting to...Do not send the text. I can understand wanting to know what happened, but what are the chances that 1) he'll text back and 2) that he'd even tell the truth? Then you have the next scenario, what if he does text back, lie, and get you even more deeply ensnared? <br /><br />Stay away. It's TOXIC!!Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06552868465220204383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-88357558858624180402011-04-22T19:29:24.915-04:002011-04-22T19:29:24.915-04:00I'm going to give you some tough love here lad...I'm going to give you some tough love here lady, because I love your blog an I think you're hilarious. Is that enough compliments before I shoot you down? You're way hot too. Ok. You are too forward. I hate playing games, believe me, but you have to play them a little. Letting him (an other guys) know that you're so free and the "hey are we still hanging out?" it's just too forward. You have to let them come to you a little (lot) more. Now do not get me wrong, this guy is a douche ad nothing you can do or say will change that. I personally think you did a little too much a little too soon, guys like mystery. But it sounds like he maybe has a girlfriend. Anyway, good luck with the next guys! I know you'll have no problem getting a new line up for us to read about and I hope this comment wasn't too harsh, it's just my opinion on things...MissErinHudsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03139838744818962557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101468634743497130.post-17599518687645869892011-04-22T19:23:10.876-04:002011-04-22T19:23:10.876-04:00I have two pieces of advice for you
1. under no ci...I have two pieces of advice for you<br />1. under no circumstances should you send that text!<br />2. go to this website and sign up for the next class in NYC.<br />http://www.understandmen.com/schedule/newyork.php<br /><br />I took it 3 years ago and it has literally changed my life and my relationships with ALL men. After having read your blog now since day one, I can see that you might really benefit from this kind of thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com